Hey Big Bully! Don’t hit my body. Don’t hit my head. Don’t hit my heart. Don’t hit my soul. Don’t hit my spirit.
Many people fear bullies. Many people despise them. Many people misunderstand them.
For on the surface, they seem like dragons who heavily breathe fire on all those around them and beasts who wildly devour their prey.
They are known for their abusive claim of their territories. Their repugnant behavior in society. Their cataclysmic destruction of the world.
They are feared. They are dreaded. They are abhorred.
But Big Bullies are just Big Babies who have not outgrown their selfish childish mindset. They have not learned to cope with some harsh realities of life. They kick and lash out their tongues and fight with all their might. They do not know anything but pain, loss, sadness, loneliness, anger, hopelessness, fear. Yes fear. They are full of it. That’s exactly why they pounce on others in hopes of never being the victim caught unaware.
The tragedy of it all is that they themselves were bullied. They themselves were victims of untold negativity and violence. That’s exactly why they want to purge their bodies, minds, hearts, souls, and spirits of all the painful memories and unbearable wounds that continuously haunt them.
They want to escape that crazy world of physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual violence.
But how do you confront fear? How do you fight fear? How do you overcome fear? How do you silence fear? How do you break free from fear?
Do you jostle through the maddening crowd? Do you shout in spiteful rallies to be heard? Do you roar like a lion in the jungle of hatred? Do you combat in war with added layers of fear and violence?
No, you do nothing of that sort. Nothing of anything ill or evil or cruel or sickeningly resembling fear.
You do it powerfully with the greatest force in the entire universe.
You do it with LOVE. Only Love. Ultimately, Love washes away all fear. True Love. Pure Love.
So, the next time you see a Big Bully, you may want to reframe your mindset and play a kinder dialogue in your head.
I am definitely not condoning what bullies do. Farthest from it. On the contrary, I passionately espouse that their behavior has no place at all in this precious gift of life. I am pointedly saying, though, that bullies themselves are tragic victims who perpetuate further unacceptable violence.
And eradicating bully-packed violence is no mean feat. In fact, one can never totally get rid of this disease in society.
But instead of spewing lava-like words of judgment upon bullies, instead of adding fuel to the already uncontrollable fire, one can proactively douse the negativity and violence with intentional understanding and compassion.
Hey Big Bully! Here’s my body. I stand and stretch out my arms in connection with you. Here’s my head. I listen and want to understand you. Here’s my heart. I have compassion for you and I want you to know that you are not alone. You can slowly open your heart to receive the precious miracle of LOVE. Here’s my soul. It may take time for you to trust me, but it is worth the effort to find your true freedom. Here’s my spirit meeting you halfway and helping you open the door to life.
Yes, little child. Let go of the past. For your past does not define you. Break free from the chains of violence. Reclaim what is rightfully yours. Your life. Your freedom. Your body. Your mind. Your heart. Your soul. Your spirit.
You do matter. You do count. You are valuable. You are precious. You are worthy. You are accepted. You are free. You are loved.